Whom we choose to look upon as our role model indirectly reflects who we are sweethearts :)
Thus the reason why Rasulullah SAW had once advised us to, "Choose our friends wisely because if you tell me whom your close friends are, Insha'Allah I can describe who you are".
This is also why ALLAH SWT had created a spouse from our own kind. In order for us to always feel comfortable when around our soulmates :) *Insha'ALLAH*
Those around us dear ones are a reflection of whom we truly are. Thus, be ensure to choose wisely the person whom you want to be for we will unconsciously in many ways be influenced by those close to us :)