Belittling others

As'salamualaikum Dear Sweethearts~ :)

 How have you all been dear loves? I really2 hope that the life of 2012 has been smooth sailing for all you dear ones so far~ *Insha'ALLAH* :) Firstly, I would like to really2 appologize to all you wondeful sweeties out there for not updating this simple blog of mine for quite some time now~ As you all know, I am currently working while doing my ACCA *part time* and at the same time I am trying to arrange my wedding preperations :) *all at once*phewww* That is indeed a lot important matters to be juggled all together ;) hehe.

Alhamdulillah, Life has been great so far~ :) Despite the hecticness and the tiredness that I face, There's nothing for me to complain just thankful of~

If there's 1 matter that I have learnt throughout this 1 month period of working life, it is that respect needs to be earned not through the position 1 holds but from the way that 1 carries themselves. Attitude should be nurtured from small dear loves. Mainly from the upbringing of the family, it helps shape a person's outlook of life & how 1 treats another.

Mark Twain quotes
Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you believe that you too can become great

I love the way this "little" quote cuts right to the heart of the issue of criticism., especially the sort of criticism that is really about putting down, or belittling others. The wisdom in this quote is that when someone "belittles" another, the act is really more information about the criticizer than the criticizee. It says that the person who is belittling others is actually demonstrating a lack of (or a "little" amount of) many things.

First, there is a lack of self-confidence. People who feel confident in who they are have no need or desire to belittle others. In fact, feeling good about oneself, and choosing to spend time feeling bad about others is incongruent. People who feel good about themselves actually tend to see the best, and thus bring out the best in others.

Second, there is a lack of awareness. While nobody's perfect, the tendency to "belittle" another is really an indication of a lack of awareness about the other person's qualities and abilities. Most of us are good at some things, and not so good at others. The challenge in almost any relationship, whether personal or professional, is to find people with complementary skills and work with them to create successful families and organizations.

Finally, there is a lack of faith in the energy of love as a guide to how we perceive life. Given that finding fault in others is more about fear than love, a person who belittles is actually trusting fear as a guide to truth and wisdom. Generally, this decision to distrust love is neither truthful nor wise.

Hence, do not ever belittle others dear ones as it is an act of disrespect. Here's some quotes that I'd love to share with all you sweethearts :)

Samuel Johnson
Great works are performed, not by strength, but by perseverance.

Mark Twain quotes
The best way to cheer yourself is to cheer somebody else up.

Ralph Waldo Emerson
Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life's cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous half possession... Do that which is assigned to you, and you cannot hope too much or dare too much.

Carl Schurz
Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands, but like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides, and following them, you reach your destiny.

Martin Luther King Jr.
"If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven played music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well."

Charles Swindoll
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, gift, or skill. It will make or break a company...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our attitudes.


TwiggyLiyana said...

our picture is still my favorite ;) keep calm and carry on, my dear aimie, the road to life is always bumpy but look forward to rainbows and just swerve around the potholes!

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